What Is It About 20----Something?

The young generation now completes the 5 milestones like “completing school, leaving home, becoming facially independent, marring and having a child which is considered as a transition state to adulthoods not only late but also not going through it at 30s. Yes, the 5 milestones are important in our lives, but it is not necessary to do it by order, and one has to complete it by the age of 20s or something. The age of 20 is still young to be forced to make the big decision. If we considered they are mature why aren’t they allowed to drink until 21, or rented a car until 25? Is it that at some circumstances, they are defined as premature? As the new adulthood is now living at the new era; they have more choice of employment and marriage. It is the reason the childhood has high frequency of job changing. They don’t want to get marry although having premarital sex. They don’t rush to have babies because there are available help from reproductive technology. Moreover, schooling is important, but is doesn’t mean without finishing schooling we cannot find a job. Off course with higher education we can get better jobs. It is all depending on personal choice. Some people are very successful in life – having a good job, high pay; they can support not only themselves but their parents or siblings but without getting married. Don’t we consider them as adult even though they are at the late of 30s?              

           The 20s young generation, “emerging adulthood” named by Jeffrey Jensen Arnett, like to explore themselves, to find out more about the outside world before making decision. Why should we rush them to make some big decision while they can take more time to consider? As Robin Marantz Henig states in his article that “if kids take longer to choose their mates and their careers they will make fewer mistake.” I think it completely true. Spending more time to consider something will help one make a correct decision, and it is a good pay off. I witnessed some young couples in my country got married at the age of 20, but they quarrel all the times because of disagreement, and as a result they divorced. My case is an example. After finished high I found a job as a sales-girl for a private company selling needle and button for about six month. However, after six months of working I feel not so interesting with the job, and then I went back college to study. After graduated, I worked for a joint venture manufacture. I didn’t get married until I was at 30. Although I didn’t pass through the 5 milestones in order and complete it at the early age, I didn’t do any thing wrong for that. I still contribute to the labor force, I didn’t cause harm to my society. I have my right to choose to do the thing that I prefer. As the author said that if delay adulthood stage could bring more benefits, why don’t we let it go.